CARL KIM ThinkFeelAct.Life Psychotherapy & Counselling, Chelmsford, Essex, and Online
You regularly feel anxious and unsettled. Perhaps your chest feels tight or your stomach nauseous. You may have a sense of pending doom – that something bad will happen which you can’t avoid. Maybe you seek escape through sleep, but find that nothing changes when the sleep ends – you wake up feeling still tired and you dread having to face the day.
You feel unworthy and not important. You believe you've made so many mistakes in your life and continue to make them. So you’re in a rut. Nothing that you do works out so “why even bother?” You are angry, fed up and tired. You believe that there must be something wrong with you, that you’re not as good as you used to be, or question whether you ever were.
You’re angry and it comes out in bursts and as rage. You're dependent on drugs or alcohol in order to cope. Perhaps it’s a deep and constant worry or fear, like a heavy, grey blanket. At times the emotions are too much to contain within yourself. You say or do things in the heat of the moment, but there are painful consequences. You live with the weight of a guilt that sits on your mind and in your heart, and it eats away at you. You feel you are to blame, and that's also difficult to face.
Everything seems like too much effort and nothing comes easily. There’s no pleasure to be had even in things that should be enjoyable. Each day you feel you merely exist, without motivation, or sense of purpose. You are left feeling numb whilst the world is happening around you. Other people are moving on, but you are stuck and can only watch.
ADDICTION & SUBSTANCE ABUSE
You’re angry and it comes out in bursts and as rage. Drug or alcohol helps you cope. Perhaps it’s a deep and constant sadness, like a heavy blanket. Or it's fear. At times the emotions are too much to hold. You say or do things in the moment, but there are painful consequences. You live with the weight of a guilt that sits on your mind and in your heart, and it eats away at you. You feel you are to blame, and that's also scary.
People don’t understand you, they don’t see the good in you. No matter how much you try they take you the wrong way. Relationships don’t work out, and your family and friends let you down. Everyone gets hurt too often. Something needs to change, but you don’t know what or how.
You feel that something is not right inside and in your life. But you’ve been getting on everyday and for a long time. You feel that it needs to be addressed. Other people don’t even notice it. But you do, though you can’t put your finger on it. You feel it’s time understand it and free yourself from it.